It’s almost over
It’s almost over
Jul 13Anyone who has been following the story knows that I’ve been in a custody battle. Well, Randy and I have been talking and we agreed to a joint custody agreement outside of court. Then today at court we both informed our lawyers. I dropped the order of protection today and we go back to court on the 30th. We have established I will have Gracie in my primary residence and he can get visits as we agree upon. The reason we have to go back is because Gracie’s lawyer wants to talk to my psychiatrist to ensure that I am indeed still seeking treatment. The 30th everything will be finalized. Then this custody mess is over. I’m getting $150/week in child support from Randy (something we agreed upon together). I should be over the moon because I got what I wanted but I’m not.
I don’t feel like getting reamed out right now but him and I began talking on the 2nd of July and I fell into his trap, again. We were together a few times and then today I got him to admit, after court when he came back here, that he doesn’t want to be with me because he enjoys his freedom (aka a girlfriend who doesn’t care where he goes, what he does, beer, and weed). I told him if that’s how he wants it then his claim to want “friendship” is bull. No texting, no calls, nothing. Just pick up and drop off of Gracie. I can’t be friends with him when I still have such strong feelings for him. I was fine until he came back in the picture. Now it’s time to start all over again but this time it’s harder because I don’t have friends living here to keep me grounded. It’s awfully lonely.
Right now I’m focusing my efforts on job searching because my article writing isn’t enough to live, even with child support. I’ll be scraping by and that’s not the lifestyle I want. I also need to save up so I can purchase a car. I need to build up everything I’ve lost. It’s hard and I’m scared. Very.
You’re doing great, Manda. I’m glad you are able to put Randy in the past and think of him only as Gracie’s dad. I had a feeling he would not want primary custody of Gracie as it would cramp his style. I think she’s better off with you anyway. It’s great news. Keep that chin up!
Soon you won’t be alone, you’ll have Gracie!
I know it’s so hard right now, Amanda. But I promise that it will get better. Just focus on you and Gracie and your happiness. Randy has become somebody other than the person you fell in love with, that man is gone.
I know you can do it. You are probably a lot stronger than you believe right now, and in a few years you will look back on where you were now and believe it too. <3
I am so glad that this was resolved relatively amicably. I kind of figured Randy wouldn’t want the full time parent gig, but I thought it would take him a little longer to admit it.
The important thing is, Gracie is coming home to her mama where she belongs.
Maybe eventually you will be able to be friends with Randy, once the feelings have faded. Take care of yourself and Gracie for now, and worry about that later.
You are doing great! Randy is a complete ass who will realize once it’s too late what he lost.
Well done hun, you are doing great, well done on the custody!