Comments on: Pros and Cons of each situation and credit card info stolen http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/ Blog of a working wife and mother Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:15:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jenn http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-662 Jenn Wed, 20 Jan 2010 15:14:00 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-662 I'm so sorry things aren't going great for y'all right now. I already said if you guys were closer I'd have you move in with me, haha. I think it'd be hard for Randy to work and/or check in with parole from Texas, yes? :X I hope whatever choice you make, it helps you. Maybe if you live with your parents for a while, you can save some money and afford a down payment on something nicer.. and even maybe get to the point where you're making more money online or something. Would it be possible to put a little bit of the money you're saving towards speeding up their internet? Whatever ends up happening, I hope y'all continue to be healthy and relatively happy. I hate seeing friends in bad situations! I’m so sorry things aren’t going great for y’all right now. I already said if you guys were closer I’d have you move in with me, haha. I think it’d be hard for Randy to work and/or check in with parole from Texas, yes? :X
I hope whatever choice you make, it helps you. Maybe if you live with your parents for a while, you can save some money and afford a down payment on something nicer.. and even maybe get to the point where you’re making more money online or something. Would it be possible to put a little bit of the money you’re saving towards speeding up their internet? Whatever ends up happening, I hope y’all continue to be healthy and relatively happy. I hate seeing friends in bad situations!

]]> By: Jenn http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-661 Jenn Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:31:29 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-661 Correct me if I'm wrong, but don't your parents and/or brother smoke? I think that would be a huge con, since obviously secondhand smoke is dangerous. I don't think you want Gracie exposed to that. :( And speaking from experience, moving back in with parents after you've been on your own AND with a child is not fun. You'll be under your mom's thumb, Gracie might be confused and/or overwhelmed with all those people and all the noise, and you'll no doubt go crazy with the lack of privacy. I personally think that option #2 is your best bet. I know you both love Colby, but in the long term I just don't see #1 working out so well. But in the end, it's your decision to make, and I hope that you and Randy make the one that makes you the happiest. Correct me if I’m wrong, but don’t your parents and/or brother smoke? I think that would be a huge con, since obviously secondhand smoke is dangerous. I don’t think you want Gracie exposed to that. :(

And speaking from experience, moving back in with parents after you’ve been on your own AND with a child is not fun. You’ll be under your mom’s thumb, Gracie might be confused and/or overwhelmed with all those people and all the noise, and you’ll no doubt go crazy with the lack of privacy.

I personally think that option #2 is your best bet. I know you both love Colby, but in the long term I just don’t see #1 working out so well.

But in the end, it’s your decision to make, and I hope that you and Randy make the one that makes you the happiest.

]]> By: Damita http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-659 Damita Tue, 19 Jan 2010 14:22:54 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-659 Agree with the others, maybe live at your parents for awhile while you are trying to get back on your feet... maybe set some ground rules before you move in with your parents maybe say look I will raise gracie the way I want, I don't want to be told what to do, if you do want to say something to me say it in a nice not telling me off way?? I hate when people use other peoples bank cards :( I had a credit card set up in my name while I was out of the country! And all the company could say was oh it was lucky it was sent to your house, I was like idiots! Agree with the others, maybe live at your parents for awhile while you are trying to get back on your feet… maybe set some ground rules before you move in with your parents maybe say look I will raise gracie the way I want, I don’t want to be told what to do, if you do want to say something to me say it in a nice not telling me off way??

I hate when people use other peoples bank cards :( I had a credit card set up in my name while I was out of the country! And all the company could say was oh it was lucky it was sent to your house, I was like idiots!

]]> By: Echo S. http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-657 Echo S. Tue, 19 Jan 2010 03:17:41 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-657 I would go to my mom's in that situation. I couldn't be separated from my dog Veda, it's awful : ( I worry about that as it is. That something will happen and we'll have to try to find a place that will let us keep two huge dogs. So difficult! Have you thought about looking into getting Colby service dog training? : P Apparently you can do it yourself. Managements may have to let you move in with him if he is a service dog! Funny that so many people have unauthorized uses on their cards : ( My cards get turned off without notice because I'm using them and I have to call and have them turned back on. They don't even just hold the 'suspicious' transaction(s) and allow my bills etc to continue going through. Sooooo obnoxious! I would go to my mom’s in that situation. I couldn’t be separated from my dog Veda, it’s awful : ( I worry about that as it is. That something will happen and we’ll have to try to find a place that will let us keep two huge dogs. So difficult!

Have you thought about looking into getting Colby service dog training? : P Apparently you can do it yourself. Managements may have to let you move in with him if he is a service dog!

Funny that so many people have unauthorized uses on their cards : ( My cards get turned off without notice because I’m using them and I have to call and have them turned back on. They don’t even just hold the ‘suspicious’ transaction(s) and allow my bills etc to continue going through. Sooooo obnoxious!

]]> By: Caity http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-656 Caity Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:20:34 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-656 As rough as it might be, I think going back to your parents is the most logical and mature choice. In the long run, I think it will be the most beneficial to all of you. I hope that things work out for you, hun! As rough as it might be, I think going back to your parents is the most logical and mature choice. In the long run, I think it will be the most beneficial to all of you. I hope that things work out for you, hun!

]]> By: Sara http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-654 Sara Mon, 18 Jan 2010 18:26:25 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-654 Manda, I'm so sorry about the card and everything. I think with time running low it's best to think option number 1 and still plan for option #3, which is finding an amazing place where Colby can stay. :) Every once in a while there are great deals here on mobile homes people are trying to sell. If I were you I'd save up what you would be spending on rent, internet, etc for a BIG untouched fund to build while you're living with your parents. You can also set a goal of getting out of there by X date. In the meantime, enjoy the savings and try to get out of your parents house for walks, errands, etc, with Gracie so you're not cooped up with 9 people all day. You'll do great! Manda, I’m so sorry about the card and everything. I think with time running low it’s best to think option number 1 and still plan for option #3, which is finding an amazing place where Colby can stay. :)

Every once in a while there are great deals here on mobile homes people are trying to sell. If I were you I’d save up what you would be spending on rent, internet, etc for a BIG untouched fund to build while you’re living with your parents. You can also set a goal of getting out of there by X date. In the meantime, enjoy the savings and try to get out of your parents house for walks, errands, etc, with Gracie so you’re not cooped up with 9 people all day. You’ll do great!

]]> By: Ashley http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-653 Ashley Mon, 18 Jan 2010 16:36:28 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-653 Hey, I would recommend going home to your parents for a small time. Maybe a couple months. Yes your sanity will be shaken but you'll have time to separate from the pup a bit. Let him get comfortable with your family away from you, and save some money. Things will open up around summer time that's usually when people move. Hey, I would recommend going home to your parents for a small time. Maybe a couple months. Yes your sanity will be shaken but you’ll have time to separate from the pup a bit. Let him get comfortable with your family away from you, and save some money. Things will open up around summer time that’s usually when people move.

]]> By: AmyLauren http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-652 AmyLauren Mon, 18 Jan 2010 12:42:00 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-652 Hey Amanda, I've been reading your blogs too, sorry I haven't been too good at commenting. It does look like #1 is the best option, even though it has its drawbacks. Of course, even that isn't permanent and like Lisa said you could move back for 6 months or a year just to save up money to get a better apartment or even a house. Hey Amanda, I’ve been reading your blogs too, sorry I haven’t been too good at commenting. It does look like #1 is the best option, even though it has its drawbacks. Of course, even that isn’t permanent and like Lisa said you could move back for 6 months or a year just to save up money to get a better apartment or even a house.

]]> By: Lisa http://forever-waiting.net/2010/01/18/pros-and-cons-of-each-situation-and-credit-card-info-stolen/comment-page-1/#comment-651 Lisa Mon, 18 Jan 2010 10:23:40 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=149#comment-651 Living with parents could also allow you to save money for a down payment on a place, so could work out better long term. You're a financial ninja for making $1800/month work with 3 people and one dog! With those skills, you could build up a nice nest egg in no time. What is the child care situation in your area? Could you get a place with slightly more rent and take in 1-2 kids during the day (or night) to make up the difference? This would allow you to have your own place, stay home with Gracie, and keep Colby. Not sure if that would work with having to drive Randy to and from work. Living with parents could also allow you to save money for a down payment on a place, so could work out better long term. You’re a financial ninja for making $1800/month work with 3 people and one dog! With those skills, you could build up a nice nest egg in no time.

What is the child care situation in your area? Could you get a place with slightly more rent and take in 1-2 kids during the day (or night) to make up the difference? This would allow you to have your own place, stay home with Gracie, and keep Colby. Not sure if that would work with having to drive Randy to and from work.

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