Comments on: Independence or lack thereof http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/ Blog of a working wife and mother Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:15:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Ranee http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Ranee Wed, 26 Aug 2009 20:41:27 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-71 I understand where you are coming from, that's a hard image to get away from. You were traumatized basically. My aunt is like that she actually would go sit in the car for 8-12 hours while her husband would work. She could not handle it at all. I'm only alone when my husband is at work, he does some things like golf once a week. I do have my daughter here though so that takes my mind off of it. Other than that it seems we're always together. If he had to go on a trip or something I'd wigg out! I understand where you are coming from, that’s a hard image to get away from. You were traumatized basically. My aunt is like that she actually would go sit in the car for 8-12 hours while her husband would work. She could not handle it at all.

I’m only alone when my husband is at work, he does some things like golf once a week. I do have my daughter here though so that takes my mind off of it. Other than that it seems we’re always together. If he had to go on a trip or something I’d wigg out!

]]> By: Kecia http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Kecia Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:14:03 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-64 I'm not that big on being independent when it comes to relationships either. I can manage life on my own, but when I'm with someone...I'm usually the needier one. The way you are feeling makes sense. You two have been through a lot together, and I'm sure it would make you crazy for him to go away for a long period of time again, especially with a baby on the way. I would think hormones has something to do with it, but I'm sure your need for them to be with you goes beyond the pregnancy. It may just take time, but continue to take these short trips away from each other as they could very well help you get other this fear and make you a little more independent. I’m not that big on being independent when it comes to relationships either. I can manage life on my own, but when I’m with someone…I’m usually the needier one. The way you are feeling makes sense.

You two have been through a lot together, and I’m sure it would make you crazy for him to go away for a long period of time again, especially with a baby on the way. I would think hormones has something to do with it, but I’m sure your need for them to be with you goes beyond the pregnancy.

It may just take time, but continue to take these short trips away from each other as they could very well help you get other this fear and make you a little more independent.

]]> By: Shauna http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Shauna Wed, 26 Aug 2009 00:21:54 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-63 I can understand where you're coming from in a sense. My brother has been in and out of jail since he was about 16 (I would have been 8). I looked up to him my whole life and it was like a huge let down when he first left. As I said, he's been in and out plenty of times since then and I find we lost the bond we once had. It's hard to get close to him again when I think he's going to F up and go back. I know it's different types of relationships but I can relate. I'm sorry you are feeling that way and here's to hoping things get better. I can understand where you’re coming from in a sense. My brother has been in and out of jail since he was about 16 (I would have been 8). I looked up to him my whole life and it was like a huge let down when he first left. As I said, he’s been in and out plenty of times since then and I find we lost the bond we once had. It’s hard to get close to him again when I think he’s going to F up and go back.

I know it’s different types of relationships but I can relate. I’m sorry you are feeling that way and here’s to hoping things get better.

]]> By: Caity http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Caity Tue, 25 Aug 2009 19:39:56 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-62 Hun I'm so sorry. I can totally understand why you would feel this way. At least don't feel badly for feeling this way. I think with time, it will get better. Hun I’m so sorry. I can totally understand why you would feel this way. At least don’t feel badly for feeling this way. I think with time, it will get better.

]]> By: Caity http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-61 Caity Tue, 25 Aug 2009 17:09:46 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-61 I went through the same thing when Sebert got home after being deployed. I can't say whether or not I would still be like that if we were still together, but I do know what you mean. Don't stress too much. When you love someone that much and then go through something where you have to be apart for so long, I think it's a normal reaction. *hugs* I went through the same thing when Sebert got home after being deployed. I can’t say whether or not I would still be like that if we were still together, but I do know what you mean. Don’t stress too much. When you love someone that much and then go through something where you have to be apart for so long, I think it’s a normal reaction. *hugs*

]]> By: Damita http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-60 Damita Tue, 25 Aug 2009 17:06:42 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-60 Aw hunny, I can understand why you are worried, please don't worry to much it isn't good for you hun *hugs* Aw hunny, I can understand why you are worried, please don’t worry to much it isn’t good for you hun *hugs*

]]> By: Nimil http://forever-waiting.net/2009/08/25/independence-or-lack-thereof/comment-page-1/#comment-59 Nimil Tue, 25 Aug 2009 10:23:40 +0000 http://forever-waiting.net/?p=32#comment-59 i can really understand your fear here.. i am for the first time not attached to the hip of my significant other and it has really been a strain on me emotionally. i'm used to my boyfriend being right there at all times and this time, being in a long distance relationship, i don't have that option. even after 2 years of being like this, i still panic if i don't hear from him after a certain amount of time. you went though a traumatizing time with that jail thing.. i remember when it happened, i read your blog as you dealt with all of it and i am so proud of you for both for staying together though it all. your fears will pass in time i'm sure. randy is a great guy and they have no reason to take him back to jail! also even though you don't want to blame it on the hormones, there is a chance that maybe the worries that you do have are just being intensified by the pregnancy.. but don't let it stress you out too much! stress is not good for a mother-to-be! i can really understand your fear here.. i am for the first time not attached to the hip of my significant other and it has really been a strain on me emotionally. i’m used to my boyfriend being right there at all times and this time, being in a long distance relationship, i don’t have that option. even after 2 years of being like this, i still panic if i don’t hear from him after a certain amount of time.

you went though a traumatizing time with that jail thing.. i remember when it happened, i read your blog as you dealt with all of it and i am so proud of you for both for staying together though it all. your fears will pass in time i’m sure. randy is a great guy and they have no reason to take him back to jail!

also even though you don’t want to blame it on the hormones, there is a chance that maybe the worries that you do have are just being intensified by the pregnancy.. but don’t let it stress you out too much! stress is not good for a mother-to-be!

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